Are you aware that shyness seems to be increasing in modern society? Besides the fact that surveys, at least in North America, show the number of people who perceive themselves to be shy increasing (it's usually over 50% now), in sociologist Eric Klinenberg's 2012 bestselling book, Going Solo - The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of … Continue reading Shyness Re-emerging
What do you think this hyena at the Toronto Zoo was looking at? If the expression on its face suggests that it was seeing something odd, well, maybe it was. As I was taking that photo, a group of 4-5 adult people on my left were talking animatedly as they engaged in taking selfies, and … Continue reading Hyenas and Selfie Culture
Although the central character in my novel, The Birdcatcher, is 52 years old, that book seems to please young readers more than old ones. One shy teen-age reader told me that she found the book to be "not just the story of one lone man, but of a worldwide type of people who have been so well … Continue reading Why do Young People like my books?
About 10 years ago I did a search for loner websites and found none. The only site that used the term was Loners of America. That turned out to be a group of seniors who had each lost their partner but owned an RV. This group of newly singled men and women travelled around America together, … Continue reading What is a Loner?
Recently I found some interesting research on the DNA of autism. This was an article by psychologist Laura Sanders - One Problem, Many Paths - that I found in the August 13, 2011 edition of Science News. Two studies of families where neither parent was affected by autism, but there was one high-functioning autistic child, identified roughly … Continue reading Autism | One Problem, Many Paths
In my book The Shyness Guide, I warn readers against totally committing themselves to a diagnosis they've received from a doctor, or have just chosen for themselves. Because of decades working as a personal injury adjuster, watching psychologists and psychiatrists aggressively disagree with each other, I've grown wary of psychological labels. But there is one label I'm … Continue reading HSP – Highly Sensitive Person
In my book, The Shyness Guide, I say that if you learn to accept your shyness you become less shy. It's true. When you're no longer concerned about being shy, you no longer suffer anxiety, so it's easier to talk to people. Simple as that. But that isn't all you gain from accepting your shyness. Once the … Continue reading Shy Confidence
Here is another post from my previous blog, Loner's Highway. In this case it's a review of the book, Party of One - The Loner's Manifesto, by Anneli Rufus. What a book! It's written with style and erudition, yet Ms Rufus comes across as if she's sitting on the other side of a table from you, … Continue reading Party of One | A review
In the Jan/Feb 20014 edition of Atlantic, an article by journalist Scott Stossel told about his life-long debilitating anxiety, and discussed the nature of anxiety. Look at this excerpt: Is pathological anxiety a medical illness, as Hippocrates and Aristotle and many modern psychopharmacologists would have it? Or is it a philosophical problem, as Plato and Spinoza … Continue reading What is Anxiety?