When I look at forums on shyness websites, I'm struck by this - almost everyone seems to be focused on one thing - me, me, me. Most shy people, including introverts, HSPs, autistic people, etc, want to talk about the difference between them and the rest of humanity, and about their tribulations and suffering in … Continue reading Me, Me, Me
Those who, like me, grew up in the 1950s, and maybe some who are not so old, will remember the song Barbara Streisand sang in Funny Girl - 'People who need People' (composed by Jules Styne, lyrics by Bob Merrill) - which declared that such people are the luckiest people in the world. Whenever I heard that … Continue reading People who don’t need People – James Michener
In my book The Shyness Guide, I warn readers against committing themselves unreservedly to a diagnosis they've received, or chosen for themselves. Because of forty years working as a personal injury claims adjuster, watching psychologists and psychiatrists aggressively disagree with each other, I've grown wary of psychological labels. But there is one diagnosis that I'm not sceptical … Continue reading Highly Sensitive Person – HSP
In my novel Skol, during a 23rd century conversation between the robot C-2 and shy 17 year-old Simon as they walk through the silent empty halls of New York's Museum of Natural History, C-2 explains how the term 'introvert' fell into disuse in the late 21st century because people began to use it as an insult. … Continue reading Why Insults?
The following thoughts only partially got into The Shyness Guide. Psychologist Philip Zimbardo, founder of the Stanford Shyness Institute in California, has devoted much of his life to shyness. In his 1978 book Shyness - What It is, What to Do About It, he says, "Shyness is a fuzzy concept; the closer we look, the more varieties of … Continue reading What is Shyness?
Are you aware that shyness seems to be increasing in modern society? Besides the fact that surveys, at least in North America, show the number of people who perceive themselves to be shy increasing (it's usually over 50% now), in sociologist Eric Klinenberg's 2012 bestselling book, Going Solo - The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of … Continue reading Shyness Re-emerging
What do you think this hyena at the Toronto Zoo was looking at? If the expression on its face suggests that it was seeing something odd, well, maybe it was. As I was taking that photo, a group of 4-5 adult people on my left were talking animatedly as they engaged in taking selfies, and … Continue reading Hyenas and Selfie Culture
Although the central character in my novel, The Birdcatcher, is 52 years old, that book seems to please young readers more than old ones. One shy teen-age reader told me that she found the book to be "not just the story of one lone man, but of a worldwide type of people who have been so well … Continue reading Why do Young People like my books?
About 10 years ago I did a search for loner websites and found none. The only site that used the term was Loners of America. That turned out to be a group of seniors who had each lost their partner but owned an RV. This group of newly singled men and women travelled around America together, … Continue reading What is a Loner?