Are you aware that shyness seems to be increasing in modern society? Besides the fact that surveys, at least in North America, show the number of people who perceive themselves to be shy increasing (it's usually over 50% now), in sociologist Eric Klinenberg's 2012 bestselling book, Going Solo - The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of … Continue reading Shyness Re-emerging
I must admit that my perspective on shyness is different than most. It's the perspective of a loner. During my life I've often been called shy, sensitive, or introverted. But several people, at different times, have also told me that I was the most independent person they'd ever met. Well, that strong independence is genetic. … Continue reading What does a Loner know about Shyness?
What do you think this hyena at the Toronto Zoo was looking at? If the expression on its face suggests that it was seeing something odd, well, maybe it was. As I was taking that photo, a group of 4-5 adult people on my left were talking animatedly as they engaged in taking selfies, and … Continue reading Hyenas and Selfie Culture
Like many people, I used to be sceptical of the Warren Commission finding that Lee Harvey Oswald was nothing more than a misfit loner, who shot JFK. I had always assumed that there was at least one other shooter. I didn't realize until recently that Oswald may not have shot anyone. Besides documentaries, there have … Continue reading Rescuing Lee Harvey Oswald
Although the central character in my novel, The Birdcatcher, is 52 years old, that book seems to please young readers more than old ones. One shy teen-age reader told me that she found the book to be "not just the story of one lone man, but of a worldwide type of people who have been so well … Continue reading Why do Young People like my books?
About 10 years ago I did a search for loner websites and found none. The only site that used the term was Loners of America. That turned out to be a group of seniors who had each lost their partner but owned an RV. This group of newly singled men and women travelled around America together, … Continue reading What is a Loner?
Recently I found some interesting research on the DNA of autism. This was an article by psychologist Laura Sanders - One Problem, Many Paths - that I found in the August 13, 2011 edition of Science News. Two studies of families where neither parent was affected by autism, but there was one high-functioning autistic child, identified roughly … Continue reading Autism | One Problem, Many Paths
Have you read Thomas Hardy's 1895 novel, Jude the Obscure? If you haven't, it's the story of Jude Fawley, a shy, intelligent, sensitive boy, then man, who is too shy, intelligent and sensitive to fit into a callous, indifferent and hypocritical world. Jude is working class, but he longs to become a Greek and Latin scholar … Continue reading Rescuing Jude
In my book The Shyness Guide, I warn readers against totally committing themselves to a diagnosis they've received from a doctor, or have just chosen for themselves. Because of decades working as a personal injury adjuster, watching psychologists and psychiatrists aggressively disagree with each other, I've grown wary of psychological labels. But there is one label I'm … Continue reading HSP – Highly Sensitive Person