Like everyone else, when I was young I read J.D. Salinger's famous novel, The Catcher in the Rye, and some of his short stories. I wasn't as impressed as everyone else seemed to be, but I was impressed by Salinger's tight innovative prose, which helped me in my early writing. No, I didn't find Salinger's … Continue reading A Shy Loner under siege |J. D. Salinger
A few years ago I was involved in a mediation over someone’s long-term motor vehicle accident injuries. Besides the claimant and his lawyer, plus a defence lawyer and myself representing the accident benefit insurer, there was another lawyer representing the tort insurer with respect to the ‘pain and suffering’ claim against the responsible driver. … Continue reading Money vs the Truth |Resisting the new Religion
On The Shyness Guide's landing page I've explained my credentials for writing that book. But why did I feel it necessary to write such a book? After all, there are more than 600 books about Shyness (last time I checked). How could there be anything left to say? Well, because shyness is almost never understood … Continue reading Why I wrote The Shyness Guide
In his 1977 book, Shyness, psychologist Philip Zimbardo took a long look at shyness. He is the only psychologist, to my knowledge, that has devoted so much of his career and writing to it. I devoted many pages in my book The Shyness Guide to his findings and views. In a Mar 31, 2016 post … Continue reading The New Shyness |Philip Zimbardo
Recently, on a blog for self-published (indie) writers, I read a comment about doing reduced-price promotions on Amazon. The author recommended that you wait until you have "at least ten four star reviews" before you start one of those promotions. I was more than a little bemused, for my books get almost no reviews on … Continue reading Why do my books have few Reviews?
In my October 11, 2017 post I discussed psychologist Elaine Aron's concept of the highly sensitive person. She came to the conclusion that her HSP diagnosis was necessary because of the profound difference in sensitivity among people. There is definitely a sensitive/insensitive divide in us. Dr Aron would caution me to say - 'more sensitive/less … Continue reading Why do insensitive people exist?
When I entered my last year of high school (1965), I had been profoundly alone for seven years. I had no friends and I'd never been on a date. As Dickens said of one of his characters, I was as solitary as a clam. The music of the 1960s changed that. When I heard the … Continue reading Who is Alan Conrad? – 2
When I look at forums on shyness websites, I'm struck by this - almost everyone seems to be focused on one thing - me, me, me. Most shy people, including introverts, HSPs, autistic people, etc, want to talk about the difference between them and the rest of humanity, and about their tribulations and suffering in … Continue reading Me, Me, Me
Those who, like me, grew up in the 1950s, and maybe some who are not so old, will remember the song Barbara Streisand sang in Funny Girl - 'People who need People' (composed by Jules Styne, lyrics by Bob Merrill) - which declared that such people are the luckiest people in the world. Whenever I heard that … Continue reading People who don’t need People – James Michener