Recently, on a blog for self-published (indie) writers, I read a comment about doing reduced-price promotions on Amazon. The author recommended that you wait until you have "at least ten four star reviews" before you start one of those promotions. I was more than a little bemused, for my books get almost no reviews on … Continue reading Why do my books have few Reviews?
In my October 11, 2017 post I discussed psychologist Elaine Aron's concept of the highly sensitive person. She came to the conclusion that her HSP diagnosis was necessary because of the profound difference in sensitivity among people. There is definitely a sensitive/insensitive divide in us. Dr Aron would caution me to say - 'more sensitive/less … Continue reading Why do insensitive people exist?
When I entered my last year of high school (1965), I had been profoundly alone for seven years. I had no friends and I'd never been on a date. As Dickens said of one of his characters, I was as solitary as a clam. The music of the 1960s changed that. When I heard the … Continue reading Who is Alan Conrad? – 2
When I look at forums on shyness websites, I'm struck by this - almost everyone seems to be focused on one thing - me, me, me. Most shy people, including introverts, HSPs, autistic people, etc, want to talk about the difference between them and the rest of humanity, and about their tribulations and suffering in … Continue reading Me, Me, Me
Those who, like me, grew up in the 1950s, and maybe some who are not so old, will remember the song Barbara Streisand sang in Funny Girl - 'People who need People' (composed by Jules Styne, lyrics by Bob Merrill) - which declared that such people are the luckiest people in the world. Whenever I heard that … Continue reading People who don’t need People – James Michener
In my book The Shyness Guide, I warn readers against committing themselves unreservedly to a diagnosis they've received, or chosen for themselves. Because of forty years working as a personal injury claims adjuster, watching psychologists and psychiatrists aggressively disagree with each other, I've grown wary of psychological labels. But there is one diagnosis that I'm not sceptical … Continue reading Highly Sensitive Person – HSP
Why do I call this site the Shy Highway? Because social people don't own the highway of life. Unfortunately, many shy people don't know that no permission is required to be shy and still go out in the world. What I'm talking about isn't just playing with words, but a real way of being in … Continue reading What is the Shy Highway?
In my novel Skol, during a 23rd century conversation between the robot C-2 and shy 17 year-old Simon as they walk through the silent empty halls of New York's Museum of Natural History, C-2 explains how the term 'introvert' fell into disuse in the late 21st century because people began to use it as an insult. … Continue reading Why Insults?
Though I've been told that my novel Skol is the best of my books, you would never guess that from its sales. My other novel, The Birdcatcher, has had many readers over the years, and the first edition of The Shyness Guide was once selling well enough that I was threatening to break even financially. Meanwhile, Skol has had no following at all. … Continue reading My Lost Book – Skol